In our society, sexual relations are often presented as an inevitable step in the lives of young people or as a symbol of maturity. However, there is a big difference between social pressure and being really prepared for this type of commitment. Being ready for sexual relations not only implies physical maturity, but also encompasses emotional, psychological and neurological aspects that are often overlooked. Here I explain why.

1. Emotional commitment: beyond the moment

Having sex is not just a physical act; it implies a level of emotional commitment that many people are not ready to handle.

• Emotions are involved: Although some try to separate emotions from sex, the truth is that our mind and body are interconnected. The sexual act can activate feelings of attachment, vulnerability or even emotional confusion.

• Long-term relationships: Sex brings with it expectations, either about the relationship or about oneself. If you are not emotionally prepared, tensions, insecurities or even emotional pain may arise.

2. The brain and hormones: the neurological role

From a neurological point of view, sex triggers a wave of hormones that affect our emotions and the way we perceive the relationship:

• Oxytocin, “the attachment hormone”: During sex, our body releases oxytocin, a hormone that strengthens emotional ties. This can make you feel more emotionally connected with a person who, perhaps, does not have a solid relationship with you outside the physical level.

• Dopamine and reward: Sex also causes the release of dopamine, which activates the reward circuits in the brain. This can generate an emotional dependence or an idealization of the relationship.

Without neurological and emotional maturity, these hormonal responses can lead to misunderstandings, disappointments or unhealthy relationships.

Talking about this with young people is part of the sex education they should receive.